You've had your worst time yet, or so it seems. And it is in your darkest hours that your true colors are revealed. Or reversed.
Some succumb to despair and never recover. But there are those who can weather their darkest hours and come through unscathed. Like an oak, they bend but do not break. Wouldn't you be one of them?
You can develop this life skill today if you will. Here are three practical tips to begin with:
- Stop taking (almost) everything personally. Realize that it's not always about you. Most of the time, nothing others do or how they behave has anything to do with you or about you. When you always take things personally, you are giving other people more power over you than they deserve or should ever be allowed. Instead, make it a habit to create a space between yourself and your reactions to evaluate the truth about any given situation.
- Stop beating yourself up over (even the least of your) mistakes. We're living in a success-driven, celebrity-obsessed culture today and the pressure is so daily we cringe at the slightest hint of 'failure' coming our way. And there's that annoying voice inside of you that berates you for less than wise choices, or actions. Often, this voice gets the better of you. Because it's a crippling feeling to think that you're not good enough. Stop. Just stop, right now. Sure, acknowledge your failures and amend the ones you can, but let go of those you simply can't. Remember, 'you' are only what you've got left when everything and everyone else fails. They eventualy will. So, love yourself. You deserve that, too.
- Start each day with thoughts of gratitude and appreciation for everyday things. Gratitude is a necessary habit. It has the power to pull in a chain of good things into your life if you simply practice it everyday—in your thoughts, actions, and words. From that steaming cup of coffee you get to enjoy every morning, to the safe ride home you get into at the end of the day—learn to appreciate everything! And soon enough your life will be filled with so much positivity it will be hard to break you down with even the hardest blow life throw your way.
Because you're pliable. You bend but do not break. You have the uncanny ability to accept all the punches and fireballs life hurls your way yet remain unfazed and holding steadfast to your values no matter how worst it can get.
“Have the capacity to adapt to change, it's your healthy growth, intelligently and emotionally. Our life can be full of extrinsic surprises, your flexibility is a key when you accept changes.” ― Angelica Hopes