Why Ask Why —The Reasons

There is a reason for everything. Or so we think.

Our frustrations and pains, our successes and pride, or even our lack of reason have reasons. Some of these we are well aware of sometimes. Others we are not.

Why do we dream? Why do we fail? Why do we love? Why does it hurt? Why do we look for happiness when it too won’t last? But, still, why do we even try?

All our worries, fears, and failures are overdetermined. Because they have more than one cause.

See, we are not particularly reasonable people.

Someone I interviewed made me think hard about that. We visited a livelihood project (women who make bags and stuff out of recycled tetra foil pack, used magazines, and trash) last week and I was tasked to interview their team leader. And I learned of their humble beginning and the impact the project had in their lives. I was awed and inspired, to say the least.

But one thing stuck to my mind. It was the reply I got when I rhetorically asked the team leader, who I found out was the mother of eleven children with a jobless husband,
“What do you think of some of our "kababayan" who always seem to blame the government’s inaction as the cause of their poverty-stricken lives and all other miseries?”

“Oh those people are lazy. If they only want to, they could rise above their poor conditions like we did. They only have themselves to blame. We took the time and really worked hard to get here. What do we have that they don’t? The government cannot do anything at all if they don’t even try for themselves first.”
So, might there be some things today for which we can’t discover a reason? Or pass the blame.

We'd like to think we're "striving" for the right reasons. Not so that it matters. Of course we’d simply say, “oh, but we all have our personal and subjective reasons,” which explains absolutely nothing. The thing is, do the right reasons matter? It’s quite painful to admit our reasons sometimes don’t even matter at all. But pain is an inevitable side-effect of consciousness.

Because in the end, what gives our lives meaning and purpose is not so much as what we have achieved but what it has made of us.

So, what are your reasons? Do they really count?
You will suddenly realize that the reason you never changed before was because you didn't want to. ~Robert H. Schuller


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