What works when life doesn't

"Don't give up trying to find your way. But do remember that sometimes it takes bending to avoid breaking." ~Katinka Hesselink
It takes a certain amount of resiliency to get back up from the inevitable failures of life. And it can take long at times. Still, what matters is bouncing back again and again and again and again.

When you're trying to steer a life with your naked eyes, your vision can get fuzzy sometimes. Fatigue sets in and the blues beat you into a pulp. Well, I've had it recently. My strength lagged behind my dwindling motivation throughout the week. And for some reason I still cannot fully understand right now, I had a painful down-time. I was... not me.

For down-times, I hold on to these three timeless principles that work when life doesn't:
  • Personal integrity. Be true to yourself. Don't ignore your inner compass. Keep your commitments. Make your "word" stronger than greed, indecision, carelessness and personal interpretations. Because at the end of the day, what really gets you standing back up, even if it takes several stumbles, is your conscience.
  • Forgiveness. Learn to forgive yourself. Admit your mistakes and make immediate efforts to correct them, but be ready for the consequences. Be as forgiving of others as well. Because our human frailties guarantee we'll all have our share of mistakes. As Stephen Covey writes, "Seek first to understand, then be understood."
  • Gratitude. Life is tough but things are getting better. I've always believed that the key to personal satisfaction is appreciating everything you already have. Stop obsessing with what you don't have. Always be thankful for life itself. Learn to be comfortable with ambiguity while continually seeking clarity at all times.
Sustaining "order and balance" in life is all about how well you bounce back. Confucius wrote, "Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall."

Again, resiliency.
Disclaimer: I just found out upon searching for my actual title that there has been a book by the exact same title by "Stuart Briscoe" published 2004. I haven't read the book, neither do I know anything of its content. Though I hope to get one someday, and there's no pun intended with this post. I'm just writing to understand my own predicament during the past week. Hope it helps someone, too.  ~Dette


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